Why Do We Feel We Have To Hide Behind A Mask? (Part 2)

My mask had become so much a part of my identity, I didn’t know who I was without it. The little girl from my childhood polaroids – quiet, confident, fearless – had been lost to an anxious, insecure shell. Before you continue, if you haven’t read Part 1, you’ll want to do so. It willContinue reading “Why Do We Feel We Have To Hide Behind A Mask? (Part 2)”

Why Do We Feel We Have to Hide Behind a Mask? (Part 1)

As I sorted through childhood pictures, I saw a little girl. She looked like me, dark eyes, curly hair and brown skin. But she was different. She had a quiet confidence about her. Although she was young, she knew who she was. She wasn’t scared to be herself. A box had not yet been assignedContinue reading “Why Do We Feel We Have to Hide Behind a Mask? (Part 1)”

Am I Invisible? Longing to be seen in a filtered society.

Do you ever feel invisible? If we’re honest, probably each of us would admit to feeling invisible at some point in our lives. Maybe it was a parent who never took the time to get to know you.Maybe it was the significant other who said they loved you, but never had time for you.Maybe itContinue reading “Am I Invisible? Longing to be seen in a filtered society.”

How to Embrace Failing Without Embracing Failure

Have you ever felt like a failure? You didn’t get the job.You didn’t pass the test.They chose the other person.They walked away anyway. Yeah, me too. As a recovering perfectionist, it’s easy to find myself trapped by the fear of failure. I’ve felt its sting & embarrassment and being the smarty pants I am, IContinue reading “How to Embrace Failing Without Embracing Failure”

Silence Speaks

You listened to the jokes.You heard the comments.You cringed, wishing someone would say something.You sat…silent. So did I. I hated confrontation. I avoided it at all cost. It made my stomach churn to think about confronting an uncomfortable situation. That’s not to say I didn’t have convictions. I did; but no one knew what theyContinue reading “Silence Speaks”

Curls by Ruth Forman

Ahhhh! Ok! I have to share this new book I got. I’m so EXCITED! Can you tell??? Yes, it’s a children’s board book. (Not everything has to a 700-page Harry Potter novel.) Because I’m a curly girl and follow a lot of curly hair accounts, this book kept showing up in my social media feeds.Continue reading “Curls by Ruth Forman”

Stuck on You

You’re so ___________. You’re such a ___________. Rarely does that sentence end well, does it? The blank holds so much weight. That single word shapes you, defines you, identifies you, labels you. And I bet if you’re honest with yourself, there’s a few on your list that need to be replaced. Maybe they’re words youContinue reading “Stuck on You”

Representation Matters: She Looks Like Me

Representation Matters. Tears ran down my cheeks as I watched the inauguration ceremony of President Joe Biden. Woman after woman commanded the stage. Some looked like me. Others looked like you. I watched and remembered… She Looked Like Me When I was a little girl growing up in Ohio, I remember what it felt likeContinue reading “Representation Matters: She Looks Like Me”

Shining the Spotlight

Remember concerts? When performers sang & bands played live in front of a crowd of cheering fans? The bass thumping, drums pounding, guitars jamming, singers performing and the lights shining. Man I miss live music!  If you’ve ever been backstage, you realize it takes a lot (and I mean A LOT) of people to makeContinue reading “Shining the Spotlight”